Shadow Work, Soul Integration & Positive Focus

Taking the time to acknowledge challenging emotional states and follow them all the way to past is important, as this is how we are to uncover the root of our emotional wounds to ultimately heal from them.

The classic shadow work question is: what do I feel? what does it remind me of? when was the first time I felt this way (usually this takes us back to childhood – BINGO!

Go back mentally in meditation to that space in time and review that first painful experience, meet with your younger self who experienced the hardship, talk to them, find out what they need from you in the now (sometimes they just want someone to listen and acknowledge what happened to them), tell them you are now 30 years old and in control of your life, show them mentally your life now, show them the things you know they would love about your current life and invite them to come with you in the future, see them reconnecting with you through the heart space.

This process very briefly (can take hours at a time, that‘s OK), is soul retrieval and soul reintegration. It is important that in the next days you come up together with your newly reconnected aspect with a plan to help them feel at home in their new life with you. Usually this brings forth experiences such as finally going ahead and writing the book you always wanted to write or putting on your favourite childhood song and dancing it freely when maybe this wasn‘t allowed in your childhood.

We want to take our own healing into our own hands, slowly and gently but consistently and this can help us avoid even common pitfalls related to abdicating our power into the hands of medical systems that benefit from keeping us in struggle because then they can push onto us their expensive products that only camouflage the symptoms for a while by making us docile or numb and only for us to have the root causes of our symptoms explode in some other area of our body or psyche so then needing yet another product to make the body shut up when it is only seeking to guide us back home to ourselves by healing what needs to be healed and witnessed.

Especially for those of us with severe trauma from childhood (physical, sexual, psychological) and those suffering from complex chronic ptsd as a result of long term inability to exit traumatic situations, it is important that we take our path with compassion towards ourselves, focusing on self-forgiveness (more than on forgiveness towards our abusers – you can heal and move on even if you never manage to forgive them – you are truly free when you have forgiven yourself for staying/not speaking up or other perceived shortcomings we tend to project onto ourselves after surviving abuse such as the internalised imprints of worthlessness that we pick up from our abusers during them causing us distress that we are unable to do something about – usually in childhood). Applying consistently integration techniques to reclaim the traumatised aspects of us.

Going back to a memory, processing it using even methods such as EFT (meridian tapping), (S'ouvre dans une nouvelle fenêtre)allowing ourselves to ‚‚finish off‘‘ the emotions we had to pretend we never had, using prayer and commands to collapse those timelines and seal the soul from any connections to those old timelines, then proceeding to anchor ourselves into the present moment, where our power lies, at this stage (and not earlier) attempting to reframe or see our experiences from a positive lens.

We want to avoid gaslighting ourselves into ‚‚love and light‘‘ attitudes of bypassing the inconvenience of what happened to us. It is important that we don‘t rush to just explain our trauma away with blanket statements often used in ‚‚feel good‘‘ new age spirituality.

This keeps us in ignorance unfortunately and we never achieve integration, which ends up keeping us from developing further and ultimately becoming victims of our own blind spots in regards to our true purpose and mission on this planet. Both shadow and light are needed in this healing process, as this is the ultimate alchemy of the Soul.